“…are made of these. Who am I to disagree? I travel the world and the seven seas. Everybody’s looking for something…”
So my first question to you is this-
Do you like the original version of this song by the Eurythmics or the cover by Marilyn Manson?
Personally, I prefer Marilyn’s version. While more than a little creepy, it doesn’t give me that pit-in-my-stomach-an-elephant-is-sitting-on-my-chest feeling like the other does. I’m pretty sure it’s because I listened to Annie Lenox’s “No More I Love Yous” about a million times my senior year in high school during a somewhat…um…well, I was in a relationship that pretty much brought out the worst in both of us and that song ALWAYS takes me right back to that place and I associate her voice with that song even when she’s singing a different one! I also kinda like Marilyn Manson. Even though his contribution on Talking Dead was less than stellar. Oh, and I’m not a huge fan of ye olde synthesizer..
Regardless of which version you prefer, I LOVE the lyrics. “Everybody’s looking for something”.
Ain’t that the damn truth?
Your calling in life? Your dream home? That kid who’s never home on time? Maybe just the effin’ keys to your car?
Have you ever found yourself looking for something that you couldn’t quite put your finger on? You know, you know you want SOMETHING but you can’t articulate it? It’s an I’ll-Know-It-When-I-See-It kinda situation?
What about the flip-side? You know EXACTLY what you want, right down to the tiniest detail. I mean, you’ve figured out the specifics for the specifics!
There are DEFINITELY pros and cons to each approach- the ole’ “Ummmm, I think I want blue paint or maybe purple…” vs. “Icy Balls Polar Blue Twilight paint can be found at Home Depot on aisle 7, third shelf from the bottom. Get exactly 3.21 gallons and make sure it was manufactured between November 3, 2014 and December 31, 2013. They recently rebranded so if the label is yellow DON’T GET IT. That’s old stuff. Only get it if the label is a light cream with a hint of orange. And call me before you buy it if it’s not on the third shelf!”
Now I’m not gonna disagree with either strategy. Lord knows I’ve been guilty of both of them.
What I DO want you to know, though, is that your dream – whatever sweetness it’s about and regardless of its specificity – needs to be feasible.
Before you stop reading and launch a hate campaign on my Facebook page, I want you to know that I’m not telling you NOT to dream big. Hell no. You need to dream GIGANTIC! Beyond gigantic! BUT you still need to keep in mind the feasibility of that dream.
Here are some examples that might help you understand what I’m getting at:
“OHMYGOSH I wanna be the first woman in space. Like, that’s my dream! That’s all I can think about!” Um, NOT FEASIBLE. Already happened.
“One day, ONE DAY COME HELL OR HIGH WATER, I WILL play professional volleyball. I’ll do anything I have to to make it happen. Work out 16 hours a day. Only eat grass and naked chicken. Whatever!” Um, you’re a 37-year-old, 5 foot 3 inch tall girl whose vertical leap is ALMOST enough to slide a piece of notebook under. NOT FEASIBLE.
You dream of a serene bedroom. One that will make that upscale spa you can’t afford cry for mercy. Calming colors, clear surfaces, absolutely no clutter. Ocean sounds playing in the background at all times. Soft candlelight illuminating the snowy white bed which envelops you like a heavenly cloud every time you snuggle in. A retinal scanner installed at the door allowing only a specific few to cross its thresh hold. BUT you live in a one bedroom apartment with twin two-year old boys and your husband works from home. As a motorcycle mechanic. Out of your living room. Now I’m not telling you to give up on your dream of a serene space but NOT EFFING FEASIBLE!
I’m pretty sure you get my drift, huh?
See, as we journey to zero together, you’re gonna need to keep in mind the feasibility of your goals. You’re gonna need to be able to figure out what’s realistic for the current season of your life and what’s best compromised until a calmer, less motorcycle-in-your-living-room season rolls around.
To help you out with this feasibility piece, I’ve got a little somethin’ for ya’ right down there. All you need to do is print it, fill it out and leave me some feedback in the comments if you have questions or need to bounce some ideas off of me. Oh, and put it in that cute binder or folder with The Journey to Zero Step 1! (There’s a sample too, just in case you need it!)